Hello my lovelies,
I have been missing in action for a moment…
It’s been a great ordeal with my children’s father since we separated in 2015 to finalise our extensive court order surrounding contact arrangements.
It’s taken a little over 18 months to have it all final and written in stone about how future contact arrangements shall be.
Initially I struggled with the thought of being away from my children and not being there to witness some key moments in their lives as I have always been there and able to.
This weekend however, really heightened the reality of how life will be going forward, co-parenting and not having the children on all weekends etc.
So I told myself, Let’s NOT get caught up in the feelings, and who wants to live there anyway? There’s no happiness where negative thoughts and feelings reside.
….And then I thought to myself… GIIIIIRL! You just need to take this opportunity to remember who you are when the mummy hat is removed and embrace every moment!
I completely changed my perception on things, because that’s what it really boils down to at the end of the day, our perception.
Our perception about things in life can make or break us and we need to be really in-tune with our thoughts which in turn will have a huge impact on our feelings.
I realised that actually, lets flip the script here… I can really use this time to recharge and be fresh and rejuvenated for when the kids are back with me and do the things I once loved before being a mother:- such as singing, song writing, dancing, reading, long baths, drawing and the list goes on.
Sooooo….
Here’s to self love and self care. ๐
Look out for my pending blog on Self Love and Self Care actually… it’s just baking…
You can check out my instagram Here too, which I have not long created, so would be lovely to see some of you there… pop over and say Heeey ๐๐พ!
Mummanopoly ๐
Fantastic post with amazing advice. You are a phenomenal person with such incredible ideas and also been a single mum of two. I am so glad that I am able to follow you and get to know you!!!
I just skimmed through your blog ๐ And I must say, you do write in a way that gives people a chance to think. Please keep the words coming,Look forward to reading more from you.
I hope you have a wonderful and relaxing weekend!!
#PATRICKSTORIES
Peace โand Love โค
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Wow Iโm so touched! Thank you so much for the positive words. Means a lot! Honestly thank you. Iโm so glad you found this post amazing ๐, because that is my aim to touch hearts and encourage people to be the very best versions of themselves so hearing this is fab and inspires me to continue blogging!!! ๐๐๐พ
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Thanks for replying me. This reply means alot to me.
Such an awesome way of replying someone.
Thanks. Again.
You welcome dear friend.
You can also check on my blog for the recent post and say your own views and contribution on it.
I did a good post about sharing and caring.
Enjoy this lovely week.
#PATRICKSTORIES
Peace โand Love โค
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I shall pop over and catch up on your blogs!
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I will be happy to see that thanks alot
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Beautiful!
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Thank you very much ๐๐พ x
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Hey girl! Iv not long wrote a similar post about splitting up with kids. Whilst it hurts to separate and not have the kids all the time, it can be an absolute blessing to have YOU time! I’m five years into co-parenting- and three years into a new relationship! I love this read though and wish you the very best in finding yourself again ๐
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Awwww wow really, Iโll have to check that post out! Thank you for reading.
I am certainly getting more comfortable with me time. Itโs like a learning curve about myself all over again! Iโm enjoying it so far! โบ๏ธโบ๏ธ
Thank you for your well wish and kind words, really appreciate it๐๐
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Thank you! Honestly iv been at both sides and it is something I miss… that quiet time when the kids leave. Not gana lie, it did get too quiet sometimes. My son is a whirlwind so you really do feel it when he’s not around haha! Xx
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Absolutely! I can put something somewhere whilst theyโre not here and know that it would be in exactly the same place 2 hours later ๐คฃ you certainly feel the difference! Itโs weird!! But me time is good! ๐
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It really is! Those bubble baths with a glass of wine, with absolutely no interruptions, and no bath toys being chucked in! ๐
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Hahaha or somebody banging on the door trying to get in. Itโs like peace and quiet is an abomination!
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๐๐๐ mine just try and jump in with me ๐คฆ๐คฆ๐คฆ
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Hahaha I canโt even go to the loo in peace! Itโs like we are part of them and they are part of us. Iโm not in charge of myself anymore ๐คฃ my little handbags go everywhere with me.
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I love this! This is so my life! (My youngest son mostly ๐๐
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Yes, negativity drains out your energy and happiness.Pl stay away from it!
I loved all your three posts!
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What a great way to approach this change. And what gorgeous kids.
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Awwwww thank you very much! They are a true blessing and they have lightened the load!
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Love that you flipped this around. You are one strong and stunning Mama xx
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Awwww thank you so so much. Iโm glad you enjoyed it. Seeing the best side of everything first is defo the way! ๐๐
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Thank you for the like of Love and Respect…. I like how you “take lemons and make lemonade.”
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Thank you sweetheart, things are so much easier when you look at it from a positive mindset!
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Fantastic post and TFS dearโ
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