Autumn Love Letter

Dear Autumn,

I feel like we need to have a chat! You’re giving me mixed signals.

You’re not consistent. I’d like to know where I stand. When we go out, I don’t know how to be with you…

You’re blowing hot and cold….

I get excited when I see you shining , I get so excited and all dressed up for you and then usually by the end of the day, you just switch and turn cold on me, it often catches me off guard. Like yesterday for example, you were so bright and chirpy, I loved it!

Today you’re so miserable and moody… Autumn, I can’t even lie… I think about Summer alot, we had a better connection. 😔 🍂🍂🍂🍂.

This was actually a post from my Instagram earlier this week and I thought it would be nice to also share with my fellow blog family.

My relationship with Autumn is such that I often begin to feel the winter blues as soon as we encroach October/ November. I think I’m one of those people who suffers from ‘ sad ‘Season Affective Disorder’.

I think Autumn is beautiful, the colours of the leaves, and conkers and the sun peaking through the shedding trees really makes you stop and appreciate nature and makes you realise that absolutely everything in life goes through a period of transition and a season of change, just like we do ourselves, physically and mentally.

Stay tuned for my next post on ‘Fighting the Winter Blues.’

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Mumma playing the game of life to win…

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Procrastination

Procrastination is an abomination!

Procrastination, is the thing that takes over you and causes hesitation.

Procrastination is like waiting at the station but not boarding the train to your final destination.

…but I won’t forget to mention, how it creates so much tension and immense deep rooted self-frustration.

You allow all of distraction to prevent you from taking action.

Tomorrow is a new day we say.

Constant self reminders, however, day by day it’s all left behind us.

…and before you know it… it’s been 7 days and before you know it… it’s been 8 weeks and before you know it… it’s been 9 months and before you know it….. nothings changed…

So if there needs to be a change, then make a change!

So I changed from being negative to a mental state of positive and when I became positive it made me more proactive and when I became proactive it made me feel more reactive and when I felt more reactive I began to feel more active and when I felt more active….

…Everything is more seamless and the possibilities are simply endless…

Procrastination is an abomination!

💛 Mummanopoly 💋

Mum on the Blog!

Hello my lovelies,

I have been missing in action for a moment…

It’s been a great ordeal with my children’s father since we separated in 2015 to finalise our extensive court order surrounding contact arrangements.

It’s taken a little over 18 months to have it all final and written in stone about how future contact arrangements shall be.

Initially I struggled with the thought of being away from my children and not being there to witness some key moments in their lives as I have always been there and able to.

This weekend however, really heightened the reality of how life will be going forward, co-parenting and not having the children on all weekends etc.

So I told myself, Let’s NOT get caught up in the feelings, and who wants to live there anyway? There’s no happiness where negative thoughts and feelings reside.

….And then I thought to myself… GIIIIIRL! You just need to take this opportunity to remember who you are when the mummy hat is removed and embrace every moment!

I completely changed my perception on things, because that’s what it really boils down to at the end of the day, our perception.

Our perception about things in life can make or break us and we need to be really in-tune with our thoughts which in turn will have a huge impact on our feelings.

I realised that actually, lets flip the script here… I can really use this time to recharge and be fresh and rejuvenated for when the kids are back with me and do the things I once loved before being a mother:- such as singing, song writing, dancing, reading, long baths, drawing and the list goes on.

Sooooo….

Here’s to self love and self care. 💕

Look out for my pending blog on Self Love and Self Care actually… it’s just baking…

You can check out my instagram Here too, which I have not long created, so would be lovely to see some of you there… pop over and say Heeey 👋🏾!

Mummanopoly 💋

Subconscious Mind, do you nurture yours?

Here I am… my very first blog (looks around an empty room). I thought I’d start with something I’ve been working on which is my mind.

Our Minds Can Be A Wilderness, Nurture It!

Sometimes in life, all we have is hope and that’s really all we need, well, at least to start off with. It is important to have something to FOCUS on, to look forward to and to have a passion for in life, otherwise we will walk aimlessly in the wilderness. FOCUS on the word wilderness;- which is a dark, miserable, uncultivated, neglected, abandoned and an unhabitable place. Wow! that doesnt sound nice at all! But guess what, our Minds can be just like that, a neglected wilderness, if we do not nurture it. It’s so easy to just FOCUS on our external selves and neglect our inner self, the ‘engine’ which drives us.

As I am sure you know, a car is nothing without its engine or even if the engine is slightly damaged the external body of the car is no good with a faulty engine no matter how beautiful the external body is. It is so important to FOCUS on our minds, thoughts and views because they will be driving us around each day.

The Surface of Our Minds and The ‘Meh’ Feeling

The thing is, it’s not just the surface of our minds we need to FOCUS on, it is the subconscious mind. The thoughts you think you don’t think but you think subconsciously and if these are subconscious ‘negative’ thoughts, then they will certainly weigh you down.

You know that random feeling of unhappiness but you try to rattle your mind to think of why you are unhappy, dull or that ‘meh” feeling and at times there is simply nothing which stands out to make you feel this way.

Overcome Your Negative Subconscious

Trust me… there are ways to overcome your negative subconscious engine which is driving you each day but you need to FOCUS and stay determined. By doing this you need to start by clearing a bit of your mental wilderness and start gardening at your thoughts each day and weeding the negative thorns.

Our minds are very susceptible to our thoughts and we need to be conscious of this, to navigate it well in order for it to pour out effectively into our day to day lives by our actions and how we mean to go on.

How do you overcome your ‘meh’ feelings and are you even aware of them?

Have you cultivated a wilderness in your mind and are you gardening?

Stay tuned for my upcoming blog on 15 Things Mentally Strong People Do. 💕

…and I look forward to seeing your comments below.